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Originally shared by +keeg burkholder
The True Gift Is In The Giving
One of the things that I have noticed in working with thousands of massage clients in the last 10 years is that the most painful suffering we endure isn’t physical or even mental and emotional. It is spiritual. We all have a deep desire for meaning in our life. A quest for significance. Some proof that our existence is substantial in some way.
We run around looking for proof from the outside that this is true. We tell ourselves stories about “if I was just sexy”, “If I was just rich”, “If the world just saw things my way”, “If I was just as smart as ____ then I could be special”. Essentially saying “I need the world to prove to me how important I am in order for me to feel good about myself”.
Some even suffer so painfully from this internal thirst that seems unquenchable that they create a coping strategy to say that they no longer have this need. That the world has never done anything for them, and they find ways to escape. Alcohol, drugs, TV, work, even spiritual pursuits that allow them to “get the hell out of here”.
The craving, avoidance, and desire for validation, and even its opposite, a refusal to play the game (what better way to be significant than by being able to claim that you no longer play by the rules of such a childish human need, and have no need for validation) is at the core of so much of that aching and nagging at the core of being. Yet, it stands in the way of us truly receiving what we want most.
Our deepest levels of satisfaction do not come from what we get from life, but what we give to it. Contrary to what our egos tell us, the deepest satisfaction we receive is not through being loved, but through loving. Not from receiving validation but through giving it. Not from receiving value, but through contribution.
No amount of accumulation of money, compliments, and love will ever truly satisfy you if you do not feel like you have contributed your best to the world. We do not truly crave accolades, we have a deep longing desire for meaning. It doesn’t have to be grandiose and on a world stage. It can come in the form of opening a door for an old lady or old man, working with the homeless, or owning a multi-national corporation. We all have something that makes our life feel meaningful, that quenches that thirst of the spirit, and makes us feel like we are living on purpose.
So go out and find it, just remember that your worthiness will never be validated and your thirst will never be quenched through what you receive from life if you do not feel like you have given value deserving of what you receive.